How You Can Stop Domestic Violence
Sometimes it seems like life hits us with multiple armies. But when this happens, we must remember to stand strong.
- 1.5 million high school students are physically abused in a dating relationship every single year.
- One out of every three adolescents is the victim of physical, sexual, emotional, or verbal abuse from a dating partner.
- One in ten high school students has been purposefully injured by a dating partner.
- One in four have been victims of physical or sexual abuse.
- Approximately 70% of college students say that they have been sexually coerced. (1)
Domestic violence and abuse are terrible tools of the devil that have attacked us and our society ceaselessly. Even though this is a terrible problem, it seems like it still is an “in the dark” issue for most people, especially when it comes to domestic violence among teens. For example, before researching for this article, I knew practically nothing about how big of an issue domestic violence is among teens, and I daresay that this is the same with most people in our society.
Because of the domestic violence issue as a whole, The Light Network (TLN) has decided to “shine the light of the gospel on the darkness of domestic violence” during the month of October (Domestic Violence Awareness Month). I think we can all agree that this is a worthy effort, but we also run into a personal problem. After all, what can I do to help end the terrible reign of domestic violence, especially among teens? You can…
Realize and Act
Before you do anything else, you must realize that this is a problem and act upon this realization. As appalling as they are, those stats at the beginning are truth, and we need to realize this. Then, after the realization, we must act, do everything we can to prevent domestic violence from happening, especially among teens. Here are just a few of the ways that we can do this:
Fortify our spirit.
Before we do anything else, we must fortify our own spirits. Proverbs 25:28 says,
“He whose spirit is without restraint is like a city that is broken down and without walls” (ASV). In Old Testament times, every city would have walls built around it for protection against enemies. Without these walls, a city was very susceptible to destruction. According to Solomon (the writer of this Proverb), a person who cannot exercise self control is like a city whose walls have been broken down—completely defenseless. If we do not fortify our spirit and exercise self control and discipline, we will be very susceptible to Satan’s continuous attacks on our spiritual heart via TV shows, social media, friends, etc. Don’t fall to Satan, fortify your spirit before he can penetrate your defenses.
This may sound cheesy, I mean, why place such petty things such as a relationship before an almighty God? My probably-won’t-be-longterm relationship can’t be something worth bringing before my Creator, right? Wrong. Paul said,
“…I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for all people” (1 Timothy 2:1). An inspired Paul urged that prayers be made for every single person. I would imagine that a relationship that involves two people is of even greater importance to God. Further, you may recall that in 1 Thessalonians 5:17 that Paul said to “pray without ceasing.” Typically, a relationship becomes a large priority in our lives, so it would be pretty hard to fulfill this command without praying for relationships.
To contemplate is to “look thoughtfully for a long time at.” In the context of a relationship, contemplation means to seriously ponder several things before you enter into a relationship. After all, dating is a “prelude” of sorts to marriage, and marriage is a divine institution (Matthew 19:6). Here are some questions to consider before you get into a relationship:
- Where will this relationship take me? Spiritually, physically, emotionally, mentally, etc. (1 Corinthians 15:33; Proverbs 22:24-25, 13:20.)
- Is this a partnership that could lead to a happy, peaceful marriage? I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be the guy who dreads going home from work, and I certainly wouldn’t want to be the wife that dreads her husband coming home from work. (Proverbs 21:9, 25:24.)
- Do they treat others, especially their “unequals” and siblings (if they still live with them), with respect and care? As one Sirius Black said, “If you want to know what a man’s like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.” (Ephesians 4:29-32; John 15:12; Matthew 7:12; Galatians 6:10.)
- Do our values clash? The old saying “opposites attract” has been consistently proven true over the years, but you must have some in common, especially your values. Christian values, academic values, financial values, entertainment values, and more all play an influential role. (1 Corinthians 15:33; Proverbs 22:24-25, 13:20.)
- Do they keep their promises? Trust is an integral part of any successful relationship, without it a relationship is doomed. Do they keep their promises, anything from forgetting your supper date to intentionally lying and cheating on you. (Revelation 21:8; John 8:44; Matthew 5:37.)
- Is this relationship going to help me grow spiritually? This is the biggie. If the potential relationship is not going to help both members grow spiritually, then get out of it or never start it. God is the base of every relationship, His values should be the couples’ values, His characteristics theirs’. (Matthew 6:33, 5:37, 22:37; 1 John 2:6; Galatians 2:20; John 3:30; Romans 8:5.)
Spread the word.
Domestic violence is a despicable evil, a sin that Satan uses to inflict harm on millions every year. He must be stopped. However, we’re not doing much to stop him by not doing anything. Talk to your friends, post a status, tweet, share this post, encourage TLN’s efforts as much as possible. Do anything you can to stop Satan in his tracks!
Domestic violence is everywhere. Behind closed doors (and, sadly, sometimes not) it is happening, in newsrooms it is being discouraged, in many TV shows cleverly vaunted. Finally, an effort is being made to shrink the vastness of this sin. You can help this effort by realizing the problem and acting upon it by fortifying your spirit, praying about it, contemplating on it, and spreading the word. Don’t ever forget those stats from the beginning, and don’t ever forget that each and every one of the 2 million yearly injuries and 1,300 yearly deaths (2) that come from domestic violence are real people that have been hurt and/or killed. Instead, use this (hopefully helpful and enlightening) information to stop domestic violence today.